This is a common BDSM technique worked with in play sessions.I am going to cover some of the basics of this form of play then discuss it in ritual.This is one of the easiest forms of being kinky.This is where hot wax is dripped onto a submissive’s body.Some places should not have pooling or large amounts of hot wax filling them or dripping into them as it can cause painful burning.One of those is the belly button and the other is the vagina or anus.Those body parts should not be filled or closed with hot wax.Also,wax play is not safe for above the neck and not on the face in any form.As this can cause serious burns.
In regards to what candles are safe,the best ones are cheap paraffin based candles.Avoid beeswax candles ,scented or perfumed candles burn at a high tempeture and can cause severe burning.Perform a heat check before working wax play to be sure it is a safe and workable tempeture.
Feathers,fingers or soft caresses can be a sensual experience in a session.This is a form of fire play so use care with use of candles.
How can this be added into ritual?I am going to specifically address solo rituals with wax play.Carving of candles such as symbols,sigils or names can be done however do not anoint with oils as it can raise the tempeture of the burning candle.
Here is how I work with this method:
Set up the altar and begin the rite.I also work nude for many of my BDSM style of ritual.When I am raising energy into a ritual,I will drip wax on myself .I prefer my breasts,nipples ,stomach and thighs.One can drip wax technically where ever they want on them selves for ritual.I prefer to drip wax on those particular places.In the soft wax,you can draw sigils or write letters or numbers.
You can chant or recite prayers as this is done.After I am done,I place the candle back on the altar to burn out if any of the candle is left to burn out.I for the most part try to drip most if not all the candle.
The clean up of the wax is just as much of the ritual as well.One of the chants that can be said is the wax is removed the magick remains as I am the living temple of magick.
Disclaimer: I in no form accept responsibility of this use of ritual or BDSM play-you do so at your own risk.
Many of us work with these traditional tools such as the athame and such.However ,for those of us who practice a stronger form of sex magick incorporating the tools of BDSM can be added in the place of traditional tools.
One of the tools I replaced was the wand with the riding crop.In BDSM,the riding crop is a tool of authority one that can bring pleasure and pain.One that can strike as punishment or to give pleasure in reward.I replaced the wand with a riding crop I use in BDSM.I have used this item previously for striking myself during ritual for pain .
The riding crop can be worked with to cast circles,invoke,evoke entities as well as being able to direct energies in ritual.I would advise against use of the riding crops with fire,oils and even some herbs if you work with the same riding crop in BDSM.
The riding crop can also be a tool of masturbation by inserting into the vagina or anus for sexual energy.One can punish or bless depending on the type of work being done as well.
Think differently about your practice,your tools and your own sexual power.There is a darkness within and a great sexual power one can tap into.Gremory is a sexual deviant deamon who is said to the soul of women who fall in love with him/her as he is androgynous.There is nothing wrong with being repulsive and in sexual power to manifest that which you desire.Abide by the government/man’s law to maintain your freedom but do as you wish.How can you see working with other BDSM tools as ritual tools?